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Week Four: Questions


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Use the last 9 days of this year to ask yourself a question a day. You may want to ask the question again and again, many times a day and in different ways: in front of a mirror, writing it down, asking someone else to ask you the question…

Similarly, you may answer in different ways: you can journal, draw, write a poem or share your answer with someone you trust.

Allow the questions to sink in and change you as they will…

Questions go deeper into the layers and assumptions that you have been taught and absorbed as part of your upbringing, the society you are part and all its structures and systems, from parenting to formal education to religion to the “path” that is usually pre-decided for us to follow…

Go deeper and accept the answers without judging or wanting to change. Nobody is watching, only you: how are these questions (and the answers and responses they generate, emotional, physical, spiritual…) will shape the year that is starting?

Your Self:

  • Who am I?
  • What’s sacred to me?
  • What is happening to me?
  • What comes next for me?
  • What is the source and meaning of my restlessness, dissatisfaction, longing, and anxiety?
  • What do I really desire?
  • What have I not brought forth that is within me?
  • What have I contributed to life?
  • What are my gifts? My vocation? My call?
  • What ought I to do? Who says?
  • What does my dream-self know that “I” don’t?
  • What story, myth, values, authorities, institutions inform my life?
  • What is my ultimate concern?
  • How faithful am I to my best vision of myself?
  • At whose expense has my wealth, security, and happiness been purchased?
  • How do I utilize my time, my energy, the money I earn?
  • What scares me?
  • What feeds my soul?

The Other:

  • Whom do I love?
  • By whom am I loved?
  • Am I more loved or loving?
  • How intimate are we?
  • How close is close enough?
  • What are we doing together?
  • Do we help each other broaden and deepen the reach of our caring, to become more compassionate?
  • What clandestine emotions fear, anger, resentment, guilt, shame, sorrow, desire for revenge – keep us from being authentic with each other?
  • When do our vows and promises become a prison from which I and thou must escape to preserve the integrity of our separate beings?
  • Can we renew our passion and/or commitment?
  • When is it time to say goodbye?

The Community:

  • Who is included within the “we,” the community, the polis that encompasses and defines my being?
  • Who is my neighbor?
  • For whom, beyond the circle of my family, do I care?
  • Who are my “others”?Who are, for me, “them” or “different from me/us”?
  • What are the boundaries of my community or communities?
  • How safe and trusting do I feel in this/these communities where I belong? (Workplace, school, neighbourhood/city, group)?
  • What am I doing for this community and what is the community doing for me?
  • Where are we going as a community or group?
  • What challenges are we facing?
  • What are our strengths and assets?
  • Do I want to stay in this community/communities? Why or why not?

(Adapted from Sam Keen’s books and website with additions of my own)

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